We humans are programmable, but we need to do our own programming rather than to let our environment program us. That migth mean you become something that cannot survive in the world it is in, but that is OK. Just be you and find a better place to be in, and you'll be alright!
It is much like the episode of Stargate SG-1 I am watching on the side here: "Forever in a Day" has Daniel leaving the SGC, now that he thinks Sharee is dead. That was a rash decision, and quite likely he will reconsider before the episode is over, but it is oddly synchronistic...
