"Life is what happens while we make plans", the saying goes. Yet plans are nothing but intentions taking shape more and more. We each have numerous ones, and our life is this vortex of intentions drawing our attention. Just like our planets are various sizes and masses, our intentions also circle our being, as we go through our existance circling higher powers still.
Yes, you are allowed to choose because you have free will, but your free will implies that others have free will also. And just like two wrongs don't make a right, any relationship needs two commited humans. If any of the two doesn't commit, there will be no attraction any more. Just look at it as two electromagnets: if they are opposites they will attract, and all is well. But if one changes polarity, it will push the other away. This kinda happened in my first longer relationship: the first thought I had when meeting in real life was "Good enough for now, but she is not the One". And that was more than physical attraction: I simply realized it, in a moment of knowing. It lasted many years, but eventually the attraction was no longer enough. It did not get to active pushing away, but it no longer was a true romantic relationship.
It did however have a period of us being the owners of a mortgaged home, which unfortunately was cut short by the occurrence of 9/11 a few days after the mortgage passed. That was when I decided I would never build or buy a home unless I could do it out of pocket. And now, many years later, this intention has launched itself in my reality: buying a modest patch of land in the country that stole my heart last Christmas, and building a home there for my new wifey, without knowing if I will ever get to live there. But it is not mine to decide that outcome. There will always be whatever the Grand Overall Design has in store for me. For now though, the mere process of designing and building is bringing me joy without end!